Bittersweet Goodbyes

This one goes out to all my HOTTIES who are friends with an ex-lover

I definitely started off as a girl that thought “I could NEVER be friends with an EX”, yet time has come to prove me wrong. Now don’t get me wrong if a man cheated or did me dirty NO way in hell will I be forgiving. A bitch can hold a grudge and I like to thank my daddy for that. :)

Life has taught me that there will just be those lovers you will find that things have run their course. That each other’s goals, wants, or needs are simply not compatible. These are the lovers we grow to love enough to let go because we want to see each other happy without the expense of the others happiness. I like to call them my bittersweet goodbyes.

I wouldn’t do anything differently with these men, wouldn’t trade a single minute spent together. They grew to be the best and most gentle lovers I have ever known. To grow with someone and love each other enough to let each other go because we both deserve something more. This is truly something quite so beautiful. You become the greatest of friends supporting each other’s happiness.

In no way I am saying go ahead and make friends with all your ex-lovers. I am simply saying that sometimes we can just end romantic relationships on good/mutual terms. In no way do we need to have an active friendship with any of our ex-lovers; BOUNDARIES are still very important.

With all this I can’t help but think why we even wish evil/ bad on our EX?

Some do horrendous things, but I hope that they come face to face with their mistakes. Every time I have taken a step back and wished them nothing but the best they can have. But of course, not as fabulous cause they won’t have access to me (lolz). The world/ universe whatever you want to call it has met them with karma or made them reflect. So, don’t waste that negative energy because there is already so much out there. Instead wish your ex-lover nothing but peace after all this is someone you once whole heartedly.

This is good advice for even those friendships that come to end. Although they are two different types of love we have for people. I have come to realize for those moments that I need closure, that this approach gives me that. Nourishing your mind and life is the best type of closure you can give yourself.

So, the biggest takeaway is life is unhinged, unpredictable, and full of surprises. Our friendships and romantic relationships will have its own unique twists and turns. Embrace the unpredictability with an open mind and heart. There will be awkward moments, but also opportunities for deep, meaningful connections. Approach this new chapter with the same adventurous spirit that defines your hot, young, and unhinged lifestyle.

Till next time HOTTIES (mwah)