Lust V. Love
This blog goes out to all my beautiful women who struggle with lust.
In all the men I have dated, time and time again, I have found myself in this issue where they are upset about the attention I demand. Women with beauty and/or personality have this captivating essence. Through no fault of our own, we may not walk into a room looking for attention but naturally call for it. Now, while this may be flattering, it is fleeting.
Time and time again, we hear that a man/individual can’t handle being with a “bad bitch”. Although, I don’t think that completely captures what is going on. Being commented that “I’m sure you have eyes on you everywhere you go” is at times disheartening. It especially hurts when a partner says it, and what they don’t realize is that it's just people lusting. The truly dark side of that attention is people just want to say they experienced you.
Lust is transient, often dissipating once its immediate gratification is fulfilled. It thrives on the surface, driven by superficial desires and fleeting pleasures. In the pursuit of lust, people may prioritize physical satisfaction over emotional connection, seeking instant gratification without investing in deeper intimacy.
Sometimes lust attracts the men we fall in love with. Although, that lust can at times become something beyond physicality, encompassing emotional and intellectual bonds. All the reasons we attract that partner are, at first, all the things they praise. Even with a built foundation, once these men realize that other men notice, gravitate, and give you unwanted attention for those same attributes, it becomes a problem.
The way you’ve acted and the way you carry yourself are now all of a sudden a problem. You haven’t changed; you have acted the same way from the beginning, and they want to change you. Some men take a beautiful woman and hide her from the world. They don’t realize that asking us to change pushes us away, and any other attention not coming from our partners is unwanted. Like it literally could not matter how many men are blowing up my phone; if I’m with you, that is the only attention and energy I crave.
Anyways, I would say the biggest takeaway is don’t compromise who you are for the ones you love. The right man will cherish and praise you and continue to do so. He will understand that the things that attracted him to you may be the thing that attracts others. However, they will not let this interfere in the relationship. Do not let a man that once praised you dim your light. You can be HOT, YOUNG, and UNHINGED with values.
Till next time HOTTIES (mwah)
