The Straightest Thing A Man Can Do
There's something deeply fascinating about the modern “man”.
Not because they're mysterious. Not because they are hard to figure out. But because somewhere along the line, they became more obsessed with impressing each other than woman.
It’s baffling, how a man to my face will flirt with me, compliment me, beg for my attention, act obsessed (even suck my toes…shhh). Then turn around and talk shit about me to his boys like he’s performing for an audience.
Why are so many men centering male validation in every interaction they have with women?
Half these men don’t even want the girl. They want the story. The group chat brag. The APPROVAL from other men.
Has this all started with the sassy male pandemic? Why are gay friends exhibiting more chivalry than the so called “straight” man?
Makes we wonder are they really just closeted males?!
All jokes aside something has to be said for man who still embodies masculinity without it being performative for other men. Because somewhere along the line masculinity stopped being calm confidence and turned into performance art.
The part that really needs to be studied.
Why are boys (I do mean boys because this is high school behavior) out here claiming they slept with women they never even touched or spoken to? Like genuinely… what is the flex?
Be so serious. How impressive that i live rent free in your head that you have to make up stories about just being around me or with me. (Lolz)
Now, don't get me wrong - I am a grown woman. I enjoy sex. Not trying to act holier than thou about intimacy. But that's why lying feels so pathetic to me. Sex is normal. Attraction is normal. Rejection is normal. So if it happened, okay. But inventing stories about women just to get validation from other men? Seems like you rather edge to your buddies’ validation than actually being with a woman.
Does stroking your ego get you off better than real intimacy?
So maybe the straightest thing a man can do is mind his own business
Maybe women energy is so great we have to be used as social currency. For these insecure little boys to feel great about their ego. They can’t even create their own vibe they have to use our name to be recognized.
This is why modern dating can feel so exhausting because so many men are committed to the performance of being desired rather than actually building genuine connection.
Maybe the straightest thing a man can do now is stop performing for other men long enough to actually connect with a woman.
Till next time HOTTIES (mwah)
