Lust V. Love

This blog goes out to all my beautiful women who struggle with lust.

In all the men I have dated, time and time again, I have found myself in this issue where they are upset about the attention I demand. Women with beauty and/or personality have this captivating essence. Through no fault of our own, we may not walk into a room looking for attention but naturally call for it. Now, while this may be flattering, it is fleeting.

Time and time again, we hear that a man/individual can’t handle being with a “bad bitch”. Although, I don’t think that completely captures what is going on. Being commented that “I’m sure you have eyes on you everywhere you go” is at times disheartening. It especially hurts when a partner says it, and what they don’t realize is that it's just people lusting. The truly dark side of that attention is people just want to say they experienced you.

Lust is transient, often dissipating once its immediate gratification is fulfilled. It thrives on the surface, driven by superficial desires and fleeting pleasures. In the pursuit of lust, people may prioritize physical satisfaction over emotional connection, seeking instant gratification without investing in deeper intimacy.

Sometimes lust attracts the men we fall in love with. Although, that lust can at times become something beyond physicality, encompassing emotional and intellectual bonds. All the reasons we attract that partner are, at first, all the things they praise. Even with a built foundation, once these men realize that other men notice, gravitate, and give you unwanted attention for those same attributes, it becomes a problem.

The way you’ve acted and the way you carry yourself are now all of a sudden a problem. You haven’t changed; you have acted the same way from the beginning, and they want to change you. Some men take a beautiful woman and hide her from the world. They don’t realize that asking us to change pushes us away, and any other attention not coming from our partners is unwanted. Like it literally could not matter how many men are blowing up my phone; if I’m with you, that is the only attention and energy I crave.

Anyways, I would say the biggest takeaway is don’t compromise who you are for the ones you love. The right man will cherish and praise you and continue to do so. He will understand that the things that attracted him to you may be the thing that attracts others. However, they will not let this interfere in the relationship. Do not let a man that once praised you dim your light. You can be HOT, YOUNG, and UNHINGED with values.

Till next time HOTTIES (mwah)

Snowbunny Takeover

Join me as I delve into the heart of the Sunshine State, where sun-kissed beaches, electrifying nightlife, and the promise of theme park thrills beckon like a siren's song. But this isn't just any ordinary escapade—it's a snowbunny takeover. With my trusty female roommate by my side and the unexpected reunion with an old high school friend.

First things first, let's talk about my roommate. Brianna is the kind of person who keeps grounded and the most trustworthy friend I’ve found out here in Kansas. She just spawned out of nowhere and since then we have never stopped yapping.

I went to high school in Florida so we met up with an old friend of mine. Jules is the type of person who makes a grocery trip into a party. So it was a no-brainer to call her up shes the life of the party and realest person I know.

Sleep was definitely not on the schedule for us so it was activity after activity; simply three women having a great time. We started off with a trip to Coquina Beach at the Gulf of Mexico. How could we not take the opportunity to catch some rays and get a tan. Although Brianna could not fucking tan for the life of her and I got my white ass a little burnt.

We also had to take advantage and make plans ro go clubbing later that day. However, we made a little shopping trip to get cute clothes to go out. After a long drive home and a fabulous time getting ready together. We really stepped out to the club. Shakai Shushi Lounge was our first stop of the night and they had a great DJ,crowd, and staff. Later we went to Eden which was a whole other vibe Shakai had more a spanish vibe which I loved since I’m Colombian and its hard to find a hgood spanish vibe out in Kansas. Eden had great hip-pop and rap and the crowd was absolutely amazing. People were a whole vibe and super welcoming and met some other great women there. We end our night of clubbing getting a slice of pizza and meeting a bunch of strangers on the way back to our car.

Second day is kicked off with a trip to Universal Studios and Island of Adventures. Now Brianna and I dragged ourselves through the parks as we were exaushted from the night before. It was still a great time as always and butterbeer better than ever. After a wonderful day at the park we went to Bubba Gump at Universal City Walk which is a new tradition I adopted from a friend (Jo). We went back to my aunts house which is where we were staying and rested up a bit before heading out to the club again. Brianna, Jules, and I got dolled up to have another great noght together. After speanding a great time togther dancing and laughing we ended the kight getting McDonals and going to bed.

Day three we spent time with some of family and packed. Us girls did meet up for lunch before my roomates and my flight. We ate at El Cilantrillo their food, drinks, and service was great and their portions were HUGE. Brianna and I then parted ways with Jiles and headed for the airport.

In the end, our Orlando escapade wasn't just about beaches, clubs, and theme parks—it was a testament to the exhilarating chaos of youth. As we basked in the glow of the Florida sun, embracing the thrill of the unknown with every step, it became abundantly clear: life is a snowbunny takeover, a whirlwind of laughter, friendship, and unbridled adventure. So here's to seizing the moment, to living like there's no tomorrow, and to cherishing every heartbeat of this wild ride we call life. After all, you're only young once—why not make it count?

Big City vs. Small City

As an individual who has lived in New York City for over 10 years to now living in Wichita, Kansas; a big city is very different from a small city. I have been so lucky to experience such a great tapestry of human experience in big and small cities. Each one offers a unique/ different blend of opportunities/ challenges.

BIG CITY :

Living in New York is such an experience that is truly unmatched by any other big city. Which is why I think it still stands as a hot spot for travel. There is an unbeatable energy that roams the city of New York, with all different types of people living there it is a true symbiotic relationship. This is the kaleidoscope of languages, cuisines, and perspectives. It's a melting pot of cultures, where the collision of different worlds sparks innovation and creativity.

I truly miss the hustle and bustle of New York. Having 24/7 access to anything, convenience, and proximity is like no other. It truly is the city that never sleeps. The level of diversity is so high and thankfully has exposed me to all types of people and experiences. In a city where at every turn you are able to experience something NEW!

As a young, hot, and thriving individual the relentless pace of life and opportunities can be quite rewarding. For a true socialite, career-oriented, or soul-searching a big city can be beneficial. The amount of competition also fosters highly competitive individuals that break new boundaries.

SMALL CITY:

In contrast, small cities offer a more laid-back pace and a sense of community that can be hard to find in their larger counterparts. Life moves a little slower here, allowing for deeper connections and a greater appreciation of the simple pleasures.

As a native New Yorker moving to Kansas was a learning experience. Finding most people very involved in other people's lives was so bizarre and uncharted territory. Outside of friendships, most interactions had typically been networking opportunities. So, I definitely had an adjustment period while transitioning into this small city life.

Cost of living tends to be lower in small cities, making them more accessible to a wider range of people. Housing is often more affordable, and amenities are within easy reach. While opportunities may be fewer and farther between than in big cities, there's a sense of stability and security that comes from putting down roots in a tight-knit community.

Small city life is ideal for families and allows them the time to grow. It provides people with more access than the rural areas. However, is slower-paced than big cities allowing to invest that time into each other.

Ultimately, it's about finding the balance between opportunity and quality of life, between ambition and contentment. Whether you're navigating the bustling streets of a metropolis or strolling along the tree-lined lanes of a small towns.

Embrace you and your goals.

Till next time HOTTIES (mwah)

Living on the Edge: Embracing Youthful Hotness

In a world where youthfulness is revered and aging is often feared, there's a cultural obsession with staying perpetually young. From skincare products promising to turn back the clock to cosmetic procedures aiming to defy the natural aging process, the pursuit of youthful hotness seems never-ending. But what if instead of fighting against the passage of time, we embraced it? What if we saw the beauty and power in aging gracefully, while still maintaining our vitality? Let's explore what it means to live on the edge and embrace youthful hotness in its truest sense.

Living on the edge doesn't mean clinging desperately to the past or trying to recapture lost youth. Instead, it's about embracing the present moment and celebrating who we are. It's about finding joy in the wrinkles that map out a life well-lived, and the laughter lines that tell stories of happiness and resilience. It's about recognizing that true beauty comes from within and radiates outward, regardless of age or appearance.

Youthful hotness isn't just about physical attractiveness; it's a mindset, an attitude, a way of approaching life with curiosity and enthusiasm. It's about staying open to new experiences, challenging ourselves to step out of our comfort zones, and embracing the unknown with courage and grace. It's about embracing our passions and pursuing our dreams with unwavering determination, regardless of societal expectations or limitations.

Beauty is found in the confidence that comes from knowing who you are and owning it unapologetically.

Living on the edge means embracing our flaws and imperfections as part of what makes us uniquely beautiful. It's about rejecting the notion that we have to fit into a one-size-fits-all definition of beauty and instead celebrating our individuality. It's about recognizing that beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, and ages, and that there is power in embracing our authenticity.

As we navigate the journey of life, let's remember that every stage has its own beauty and value. Let's celebrate the wisdom that comes with age and the vitality that comes from living with passion and purpose. And let's redefine youthful hotness not as a fleeting state of being, but as a timeless embrace of who we are, right here and now.

Till next time HOTTIES (mwah)

Hot, Young, & Unhinged

Welcome to "Hot, Young, and Unhinged," a blog that dives deep into the exhilarating, tumultuous world of youth. Join me as we explore the highs and lows of being young, passionate, and unapologetically bold in a world that often feels like it's spinning out of control.

From heart-pounding adventures to heart-wrenching romances, we uncover the raw, unfiltered experiences that define the journey of youth. My blog is a space for fearless exploration, where we delve into topics like risk-taking, creativity, love, rebellion, mental health, and everything in between.

Through thought-provoking articles, personal anecdotes, expert insights, and candid discussions, I aim to capture the essence of youth in all its glory and complexity. Whether you're navigating the ups and downs of relationships, chasing your dreams with unwavering passion, or challenging the status quo in pursuit of social change, this blog is your companion on the wild ride of youth.

Join me as we embrace the chaos, celebrate the triumphs, and navigate the turbulence of being hot, young, and unhinged. Welcome to a journey where every twist and turn is an opportunity for growth, discovery, and living life to the fullest.

Till next time HOTTIES (mwah)